After my divorce, the hardest part wasn’t the paperwork—it was watching my 8-year-old, Lily, come back from her dad Jason’s house smaller every weekend, and missing things she cherished: first her American Girl doll, then her iPad, then my late mother’s necklace. Jason brushed it off as “carelessness,” echoed by his girlfriend, Dana, and her daughter, Ava. But Lily’s light was dimming, and my gut said something was wrong.
I hid an AirTag in Lily’s hoodie and a tiny voice recorder in her jacket. Sunday night, the tracker pinged—not in Lily’s room, but in Jason and Dana’s master closet. The recording clinched it: Dana cooing that the hoodie was “perfect for Ava” and admitting Lily “wouldn’t miss” the other items—doll, necklace, iPad—because her mom “spoils her.”
I photographed a box in that closet holding all of Lily’s things and called a meeting with Jason, our lawyer, and Lily’s school counselor. We played the audio, showed the photos, and presented a list of stolen items (over $3,000). Jason was furious; Dana had no defense. Everything was returned within 48 hours, custody was temporarily modified, and the counselor began supporting Lily through the gaslighting fallout.
Back home, Lily held her doll and asked if she’d done something wrong. “Never,” I told her. She was relieved—but also sad for Ava. We set new boundaries: Lily still sees her dad, but Dana is never alone with her again. With her things—and voice—restored, Lily started to stand taller, learning that her belongings matter, her feelings matter, and her instincts (and mine) are worth trusting.