There are absences that fill every space. And then there are those small moments—a scent in the air, a song at just the right time, a shiver for no reason—that give the impression that love, at least, hasn’t disappeared. Regardless of your beliefs, many grieving people report experiencing unsettling, sometimes comforting, “winks.” Without promising certainty, here are some signs that are often mentioned… and, above all, gentle ways to receive them without fear.
The “little coincidences” that are too perfect:
Finding a light-colored feather on the path, stumbling upon a coin in an unexpected place, repeatedly encountering an unusual name… On paper, everything has an explanation. But when these details occur just as you were thinking of the person, they take on a different flavor: that of an intimate message, like a sticky note left by life itself.A simple tip: jot down the date and context on your phone (“where I was, what I was thinking, how I was feeling”). Sometimes, rereading these notes is helpful; you can sense a kind of continuity.