A body-language expert, Judi James, says Meghan Markle’s public role has radically shifted between her first marriage and life with Prince Harry. In early photos with ex-husband Trevor Engelson, Meghan often stood slightly aside, smiling politely and blending in—what James calls a “passive trophy wife” presentation with little visible synchronicity between them.

With Harry, the dynamic flips. Meghan projects confidence and leadership: stepping slightly ahead, initiating touch, clasping Harry’s hand in both of hers, and sometimes cupping his face for public kisses. James argues this isn’t about overshadowing but about owning the narrative and proudly “displaying Harry like the trophy husband.”

The couple’s evolution mirrors their unconventional path—from a rule-breaking 2018 wedding to a partnership where Meghan’s signals of dominance and assurance “fit” Harry. Public appearances show coordinated affection and a clear, intentional visual hierarchy that highlights closeness, control, and mutual trust.

At home in Montecito, they prioritize privacy and grounded parenting for Archie and Lilibet—shaped by Harry’s memories of Diana and concern over scrutiny. Meghan shares glimpses of family life, from nightly emails to the kids to lessons in the garden about patience, gratitude, and value, underscoring a life built on protection, purpose, and quiet leadership.