My son’s wife hates how close we are. At first, she was happy when we paid for the wedding and the house. But lately, she’s saying, “He has another family now; we need to set boundaries!” I ignored her. But the last straw came when she gave me guidelines. Her four insulting rules were: no unannounced visits—she says we must call before coming, even though it’s our son’s house too. Then she preemptively apologizes, claiming she can only host us once a week. .

No babysitting the newborn—she refuses to let us babysit, saying only her mom can because she’s a nurse, and I’m not. Ridiculous! No staying over—we occasionally stay in their spare room for weekends due to the distance, but now she wants to stop that, claiming long visits are overwhelming for her. No holiday expectations—she says she feels pressured to spend every holiday with us, despite years of family tradition. Now they want to explore other options, mainly spending it with her parents. I was furious. She is clearly trying to keep my son away from us. The worst part is that he seems to agree with her. I don’t recognize him anymore! What am I supposed to do? Jenna