Dealing with an overbearing mother-in-law can take a real toll. You may feel stressed, exhausted, or unsure of yourself, and the tension can spill into your relationship. It can also create anxiety about family events, and if kids are around, they may sense the strain and relationships can suffer.

To protect your peace, set clear boundaries about when and how she can be involved. Try to understand where her behavior comes from, but don’t force interactions if they constantly hurt you. Stand firm without being cruel, focus on what’s healthy for you and your family, and stop trying to meet every expectation she has.

Keep an open dialogue with your partner—you’re a team, and you need the same boundaries and support system. Notice patterns in her behavior so you’re prepared, and acknowledge good moments when they happen. Change may be slow or never come, so focus on controlling your responses instead of trying to control her.

If the stress becomes overwhelming, therapy can help you cope and offer tools to protect your well-being. You don’t have to fight, but you also don’t have to sacrifice your happiness to keep someone else satisfied. Your peace, your home, and your family come first.