When my husband returned from his weeklong vacation, he expected to walk through our front door like nothing had happened. Instead, he found someone blocking his way with a bright yellow suitcase and a face full of fury. The look of terror that crossed his face was worth every tear I had cried.Looking back now, I should have seen the warning signs about Jason’s character long before we got married.He had always been the type of guy who put his friends first and made excuses when things got tough.During our dating years, I brushed it off as him being young and carefree. I told myself that marriage would change him, that responsibility would make him grow up.When we got engaged, Jason seemed different for a while. He talked about our future with excitement and made all the right promises about being a good husband.

“We’re going to be such a great team, Claudia,” he would say, holding my hands and looking into my eyes. “I can’t wait to build a life with you.”I believed him completely. I wanted to believe him.When I got pregnant eight months after our wedding, Jason was over the moon. He spent weekends painting the nursery a soft yellow color and assembling the crib with such care that I thought maybe this was it. Maybe becoming a father would finally make him the responsible man I had been hoping for all along.”This baby is going to have the best daddy in the world,” he would whisper to my growing belly at night. He read parenting books and talked about all the things he wanted to teach our child. I felt so hopeful during those months, watching him prepare for fatherhood with such enthusiasm.