A woman who resolved to have sex with her partner for a whole 365 days opened up about what she learned from the ‘journey’.Brittany Gibbons didn’t like the way she looked, said she was ‘horrible at intimacy’ and she just couldn’t turn off that insecurity that was making sex with her husband ‘a really anxiety-inducing experience’.Writing in Huff Post about her year, Brittany explained that whenever she and her husband looked like they were going to have sex, she’d start avoiding it due to anxiety.The temperature, the stress, cramps, deadlines or one of their kids being too scared to sleep alone that night were all kinds of reasons she’d deploy to avoid sex.Either that or she’d try explaining why she felt self-conscious, he’d ask why him telling her she was beautiful wasn’t helping her get over it and she’d feel ‘like a horrible, horrible a**hole’.
The early stages were ‘rough’ for Brittany as she felt like she was spending a lot of time preparing for sex when the scheduled lovemaking started feeling like a ‘chore’.However, in time it stopped being a chore and became the time of day when she was ‘most at peace’ and could really communicate with her husband Andy, who she says ‘had a really good time’ that year.”As the months passed, I started looking forward to it,” she explained.”Sex begat more sex, and those connected, loved-up feelings began to creep outside of the bedroom – or, in our case, the laundry room, the closet, and our garage – and into our everyday lives.”We were more romantic with each other, touching arms as we passed, kissing longer before work – and not just the cold familiar peck. Our relationship was stronger and better when our intimacy was flourishing.”