When I was thirty and halfway through chemotherapy, I believed cancer would be the hardest thing I would ever face. Treatment stripped me down to survival mode—hair gone, strength fading, days blending into one long ache. Every smell made me nauseous, every sound felt too loud, and every night ended with the same quiet hope: just make it to tomorrow. Through it all, I assumed my marriage would be my anchor. I was wrong. A week before Thanksgiving, my husband told me he was leaving for a luxury vacation with his mother, one she had already booked and decided I would “ruin” with my illness. He didn’t argue when I asked him to stay. He packed his suitcase while I sat shaking from exhaustion, kissed my forehead without warmth, and walked out. In that moment, the loneliness cut deeper than the disease ever had.
What followed wasn’t dramatic—it was deliberate. I filed for divorce, not out of anger, but clarity. Healing, I learned, begins when you stop begging people to choose you. The days were quiet and slow. I journaled when words felt empty, walked a few minutes at a time, and let small routines rebuild me. Eventually, my body responded. I reached remission. Then, when I wasn’t searching for anything at all, kindness found me. It came gently, without pressure or promises, simply staying when staying mattered. Today, my life is full in ways I once thought impossible. I understand now that real love doesn’t abandon you in the dark—it sits beside you until the light returns. Sometimes being left behind is what leads you exactly where you’re meant to be.